That has a lot to do with where you are focusing your attention. You may be surprised to learn that your condition overall and the way you feel are not so much about the things that are happening to you. What matters is what you focus your attention on and how you evaluate situations.

The intensity of perceived stress is not only dependent on the triggers, the stressors, because stress reactions are very different individually and can vary considerably even for the same individual. It is not the external circumstances that are causing stress, but ultimately it is our assessment that is decisive. As the ancient Greek philosopher Epictetus said,

“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.”

Stress comes first and foremost from the fact that we make two assessments in each situation.

1. A primary assessment in which we ask ourselves: What does this situation mean to me? Are my goals or personal values at risk? Is it a potential threat?
2. And the secondary assessment in which we ask ourselves: What are my coping possibilities in this situation - or simply, what can I do?

Who or what do you pay attention to?

Depending on these two assessments, stress will develop or will not develop. The beauty of this is that we can make a conscious choice where we want to direct our attention, just like when shining a flashlight. You will perceive more strongly whatever you illuminate with your attention light. When you shine on problems, you will see problems. Even if there are opportunities and possibilities at the same time.

Widening the focus of attention

Here is my recommendation: Widen the beam of your flashlight. Try to consciously pay attention to the positive aspects, opportunities, and possibilities. In the end, this will make you feel less stressed and you will less frequently have the feeling that things are going badly. As soon as you consciously pay attention to everything that is actually going well, at work or in your life in general, your perceived quality of life and your perception of the overall situation will automatically change. But don't turn your attention exclusively to the positive by ignoring problems and difficulties. That would just be another type of distorted perception - only in the other direction.

I trust that you will increase your personal efficiency with this impulse and will really take off.